An Introvert’s Survival Guide To The Church: First Week of the Study Available!

Do you live in fear of fellowships that last over an hour, and cringe when you’re the first one to leave?

Do you dread the small-talk exchanges that crop up during small group meetings and church meet-and-greets?

Do you feel like you don’t quite fit into your church or your spiritual community?

If you struggle with any of these issues, if you’re an introvert, or if you’re an extrovert who wants to understand a little bit more about your quieter, thoughtful brothers and sisters in Christ, now’s the time!  Come join my six-week Bible study Introverts In The Church: A Survival Guide.  There you’ll find understanding, sympathy, and some useful tips for how to integrate yourself (or help integrate other introverts) into your broader church community right now.

The study is posted here: this week I’m talking about that time I had to choose between Jesus and the bathroom, the struggles introverts face, how to figure out if you’re an introvert or an extrovert, and the foundational truth that the church requires personalities of all kinds.

Everyone is welcome – and if you have any thoughts to add about the study or your personal experiences, let me hear ’em either here or over there.

Looking forward to spending the next six weeks with all of you!


4 thoughts on “An Introvert’s Survival Guide To The Church: First Week of the Study Available!

  1. I know I’m an introvert, it seems to run in the family. I also have touch issues – so when the meet-and-greet (a.k.a. passing-the-peace) gets started I try to stay in the middle of the pew where extroverts can’t get to me (unless they over-zealously climb over the pews, but nobody wants to create that sort of scene.) The lady that sits behind me is the touchy-feely type who always goes for my shoulders and the lady that sits on the far side of the same pew out of the blue decided to hug me. It makes me feel like they have to satisfy their extroverted needs at the expense of my introverted nature. They’ve never stopped to ask: “Is it okay if I (do this) or (do that) to you?” Then I think about stopping to tell them to just stop touching me and I just know that they wouldn’t get it. They’d look at me like “What’s wrong with you that you wouldn’t like being touched and hugged?” Truth is, I have no answer for that. I just don’t like having my personal space violated by people I don’t know very well and who haven’t earned my trust.


    1. Runs in my family, too!

      Yes, the touch issues are another problem. And most people do not think about it (or even about the subtler issues of introversion) because, to them, those problems don’t exist and they have a difficult time seeing another perspective. “Well, I don’t mind it, so why would anyone else?” And you don’t need to have a reason for why you don’t like it, per se (though some people do): it’s just the way you’re wired.

      One of the reasons I am trying to encourage extroverts, too, to read the study is because I think they’d benefit from seeing what it’s like from the other end – that there are people who really do struggle with these things, and to make it possible for them to either ask if something is okay or to be understanding if someone says “I’d rather not.” A little empathy or sympathy can go a loooooong way.


  2. I am both introvert and extrovert, but mostly introvert. The last few years, I began to come into that realization about myself. I can be my own company. I don’t mind fellowship with my brethren. After awhile, I need my own space. So I withdraw myself.

    I deal with things inwardly. I take it apart and look at the who, what, when, and why. I look my role in the situation. What could have been done. Then Iaddress the issue. The downside of that, I don’t always have the luxury to step aside and deal with it. Decision is needed asap. I get flustered when that happens. Give your feedback.


    1. I think even in those moments when a decision is needed ASAP you can take just a moment, or second or two, to breathe and say a prayer. You can even ask to be excused, or ask to have a moment to think. You might not always be able to get the time you want to think something over all the way, but you can usually find that others will permit you a little additional time if you need it and share your needs.


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