How To Be Authentically “No-Drama” Believers

Church drama is more often than not a hydra-headed monster. It might initially be caused by a particular incident or person, but over time it becomes a labyrinthine mess of believers behaving badly, all contributing to the problem without ever owning part of it. [Click title to read more.]

We Need To Rediscover The Meaning of Fellowship

I suspect that much of our current definition of fellowship - and, if I dare say it, of "doing life together" - coincides little with the concept of fellowship that the ancient church shared. [Click title to read more.]

Not All Christians Smile

It's easy for us to reflect our own assumptions, ideas, and personalities onto Christianity as a whole and onto other believers, too. It's simple, in other words, for us to assume that other believers do or should act just like us because they love the same God we do and are blessed in the same way as we are. [Click title to read more.]

How Forgiveness Makes Space for Honesty

Because I'm a college professor, I assign homework.  Students are not into this. A few years ago, one of my students was so not into this that she forgot to write down the page numbers of the reading assignment.  Logging on to the forum for our class online, she promptly wrote an email that she … Continue reading How Forgiveness Makes Space for Honesty

An Introvert’s Survival Guide To The Church: First Week of the Study Available!

Do you live in fear of fellowships that last over an hour, and cringe when you're the first one to leave? Do you dread the small-talk exchanges that crop up during small group meetings and church meet-and-greets? Do you feel like you don't quite fit into your church or your spiritual community? If you struggle with any of these issues, if you're an introvert, or if you're an extrovert who wants to understand a little bit more about your quieter, thoughtful brothers and sisters in Christ, now's the time! [Click title to read more.]

What Does Christian Disagreement Look Like?

I'm the sort of person who apologizes even without having done anything wrong, just to smooth over an argument; I hesitate before taking a stance that might cause conflict. And yet the more I study, the more I realize that Christian disagreement both with believers and nonbelievers can be a beautiful, productive thing: we just have to learn the skill and then hone it over time. [Click title to read more.]