Cultivating Availability

Want to become the sort of person that people seek out? It's easier than you'd think.

When There’s No Response

Reach out. Don't forget, and don't let go. [Click title to read more.]

Maintenance Prevents Decay

A few shared experiences and some good feelings aren't enough to keep a friendship, or any kind of relationship, going through neglect and disinterest. [Click title to read more.]

Five Fundamentals For Deep Church Friendships

Over time, I've learned that there are five factors that determine the structure of godly friendships. Where one or more of these is absent, acquaintance-ships tend to reign over anything much deeper. [Click title to read more.]

Why Fellowship Is Valuable When It Works

At its best, and as an ideal, Christian fellowship is (or should be) a place where we can drop pretenses, get comfortable, stretch our toes, look for and find and provide support, and enjoy the feeling of being somewhere that we're understood, loved, and supported. It's a community where the love of God is, at least theoretically, being made manifest constantly in surprising and wonderful ways. [Click title to read more.]

Giving The Gift of Your Presence

It's a heavy duty, the gift of presence: the gift of simply being there in body for someone. But it is profoundly valuable. [Click title to read more.]

The Peril of Forgetting Jonathan

If you're a believer, you surely have a Jonathan - a person you've leaned on, someone who understands you, who has helped you, who has ministered to you in a time of need. [Click title to read more.]

Believers Don’t Need To Be Friends To Be Family

As Christians, I think we sometimes feel that if we're not good friends with all our fellow believers, we're doing it wrong. That if our brothers and sisters are not also our constant brunch buddies and going-out companions and soul siblings, we've failed or we won't be able to maintain a Christlike relationship. But that isn't true. [Click title to read more.]