How To Be Authentically “No-Drama” Believers

Church drama is more often than not a hydra-headed monster. It might initially be caused by a particular incident or person, but over time it becomes a labyrinthine mess of believers behaving badly, all contributing to the problem without ever owning part of it. [Click title to read more.]

Details Matter Because People Do

A phone call. A text. A reminder to get in touch with that one person about that one thing. A promise to check in about something. An errand. A delivery. A note. They seem small. But when we neglect them, we neglect the people attached to them. [Click title to read more.]

Ask Hard Questions, And Learn From The Silences

Awkward silences are always going to be endemic to church activities that involve question-asking. It'll happen sooner or later. The trick, I think, is not to ignore that silence or what it might portend. [Click title to read more.]

The Problem of Christian Float

I call it Christian float: when believers can float into a church and even do all the "right" things in it (become a member, "plug in" to small groups or activities, participate in ministry) and somehow never end up fundamentally connected to anyone in the congregation. When they can show up faithfully and then leave the church after a day, a month, or after two years and find the reaction is exactly the same: indifference or ignorance. [Click title to read more.]